Does your Life Story need a Re-Write?

Written by Nick Curtin

Human beings are wired to look at their lives in a narrative format. As a species we even create the structure of a story within our lives by episodic memory recall – looking at events in our past, present, and future with a beginning, middle, and an end. Stories not only provide structure, they add meaning and purpose in our life. Your life, your story, has been working up until this point and whatever you have produced is a direct result of the kind of person you have become, as a result of the choices and consciousness within your story. So you have to ask yourself, are you happy with what your life story has produced?

Many of us live in quiet desperation. We deny our dreams and aspirations out of fear – fear of the unknown, fear of change, and fear of failure. To break out of that fear, you have to break of out yourself. People do not pursue their dreams because on a subconscious level they do not believe they can achieve them, or that they do not deserve them. Paulo Coelo wrote, “…at a certain point in our lives, we lose control of what’s happening to us, and our lives become controlled by fate. That’s the world’s greatest lie.” The only thing controlling your fate is you, no one can take care of your personal details better than you. However, no matter how big your dream, no matter how big your goal – your journey of realizing your dream begins with realizing yourself as seen in the following passage.

There once was a young man that tried to change the world. This proved too difficult, so he tried to change his nation. When he could not change his nation, he focused on changing his town. Since he could not change the town and now older, he tried to change his family. Now a senior, he realizes the only thing he can change is himself. He recognized that if long ago he had changed himself, he would have impacted his family and impacted his town. Their impact could have changed the nation and he could, indeed, have changed the world.

Leo Tolstoy wrote on this very topic that, “Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.” Start encouraging and developing yourself: read books, take classes, find a mentor, and begin to invest in yourself. This is the tuition, you have to pay for what you do not know in order to accomplish your goals. Making the decision to pursue your dreams is only the beginning. When you make that decision, you are actually jumping into a swiftly meandering stream of consciousness that will transport you to places never before imagined because as you change within, your perspective changes, and so the world with it.

So, how will the next chapter of your life read?


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Navigating the Holiday Party at Work

Written by Lilly Segura

It is that time of the year again, folks! The holly jolly holidays, along with the holiday party at your office. Parties come in many different forms. Perhaps you work at a smaller company or branch office and will be celebrating by having a quaint dinner. Perhaps you work at a larger company with a great campus and the party consists of multiple attendees including family. No matter the kind of a celebration you are attending there are a few ground rules everyone should keep in mind

1. Clothing

Do remain in a professional mind frame

The office get together is definitely a more relaxed environment for you and your coworkers to enjoy each other’s company. Remember that you are still at a work function even if you’ve stepped outside the office. Follow the general rules you normally would for a typical workday.

If the gathering is themed (i.e. ugly Christmas party sweater) partake in the fun! This will show everyone that you are a team player!

Don’t go too casual

If the gathering is a bit more casual you want to make sure your clothing is neat, tidy, and wrinkle free. Your outfit should also be modest. No stilettos or thigh high slits! Even though you might not work at a fashion design company now is the time to think outside the box and maybe even impress the bosses. They always say you should dress for the job you want. Do so by showing everyone that you are refined and polished, yet fun! Your boss might even see you in a different light and give that promotion a second thought!

2. Alcohol – What is a holiday party without a little bubbly?

Do drink in moderation

Make sure you will still be able to remain pleasant and amicable among your coworkers and loved ones. Also keep in mind that you might need to drive home and weather conditions can be harsh around this time of year.

Don’t be the office drunk. You will be made fun of for the rest of the year — or until someone else gains the title.

3. Conversation

Do remain positive and celebrate your free time together.

The office holiday functions to inject the company with unity. Remember that you are celebrating both your and the company’s success – make sure to show everyone how proud you are to be a part of a great staff!

Don’t say anything at all if you don’t have anything nice to say. Everyone is there to have a nice time and no one appreciates a Negative Nancy.

4. Multiple Customs

The holidays are a time to be merry! And a time for us to be conscious of the different holidays which are celebrated at the end of the year.

Do wish everyone “happy holidays” to avoid any stickiness

Don’t take it offensively if someone extends their good wishes for a holiday that you do not celebrate.  It is everyone’s intention to spread good cheer.

Moreover, remember to have fun! Workplace parties do not take place often. Do not be a scrooge and miss out on the yuletide jubilee. Enjoy your time with your fellow coworkers! Happy Holidays!

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